Throughout the past year, I have
had numerous people ask me how my kids were dealing with everything. In
general, my answer has been that Leah is oblivious and Nathan has been a
trooper. This week my boy finally broke and shared his heart.
But first… the good stuff.
We spent last week on vacation! A
real, escape from life, family getaway. We had a blast visiting our awesome
friends, the McAwesome crew, at their home in Northern California between the tiny
towns of Fall River Mills and Burney. They live in a magical place where if you
look to the north you see Mt. Shasta, to the south you see Mt. Lassen and to
the west you see Mt. Burney. This is what I saw each morning when I opened the
RV door.
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| Mount Shasta, California |
Still wonder why this is our new
favorite vacation destination?
Let me just highlight, by family
member, a few of the great things that we got to do during the week.
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| Pretty in Pink |
Leah
- Our baby grew up this week. While she may technically
be turning two this Friday, she has taken on the independence of a 4 year
old. That little girl kept up with the older kids like nobody’s business.
- In sitting at the bar with the “big kids” (not in a
high chair), Leah learned to swallow
her food last week. If you have ever seen the girl eat, you know what I am
talking about. She usually chews it up, sucks out the juice/nutrients, and
then spits out the bulk. This sort of twisted baby eating disorder has
finally been cured and we could not be more proud.
- She conquered her fear of water and proved to be a
true water baby. Floating on her
back is her favorite. The girl is a fish.
- She fell in love with their baby kitten and little teacup shiatsu. Poor animals could not hide fast enough. You would have thought she was a mama cat by how she carried the kitten around by the scruff of her neck. Let’s say the girl loved the kitten too much!
Nathan
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| Nathan and Daddy caught a fish!!! |
- 6 days in the spa for at least 4 hours a day. Raisin
fingers… happy boy.
- If it is possible to have a forever friend at 5 years
old, I do believe Nathan can officially say he has found his. “Superman”
(6 yrs old) and “Spunky” (4 yrs old) are the kind of friends we will keep
for life. Nathan has decided he wants to marry Spunky… and we are all
completely fine with his choice. What a amazing time to watch my son find
friendship at such a young age.
- Tape. Tape and paper. Tape and paper and pens. If
they were not in the spa the kids were drawing. Bliss.
- Nathan had a great time with his dad. They caught a fish in the stream and had a blast golfing. Here is a pic of his stance/swing. Eric says his swing is near perfect… I don’t know enough about golf to argue. Love watching my boy and his dad share such amazing bonding moments.
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| The kid looooooooooves golf. |
Eric
- The man shot at clay pigeons and was an all-star.
There were only about 10 left and I watched him hit 7 in a row.
- Golf. He was able to go twice in one week and had a
blast. As much as this habit can drive me crazy, I love how he comes home
from a round relaxed and content.
- The boys had the amazing opportunity to go fly-fishing on the Fall River during the hex-hatch. Basically this means they went out on the river at sundown during the time that a special mayfly hatches and the fish go crazy jumping out of the water trying to snatch the flies. My man caught a 17 inch 2+lb rainbow trout! Happy, happy husband!!!
Me
- I followed Mrs. Awesome around and learned a ton about
gardening. She sent me home with a pallet of divided flowers that I put in
the ground this morning. Just hoping I can nurse and love them to great
health and vibrancy here in the valley.
- I experienced pains near the intensity of childbirth.
Got to go to the ER and the determined that I was border lined between a
kidney infection and UTI. Ouch. Reminder that my body is still healing and
that my immune system is not yet normal. Grrr… but this will improve with
time.
- Honestly, the kids were great and I just got to sit
back and watch them have fun.
This is my favorite kind of mothering.
- Deep conversation. Mr. & Mrs. McAwesome are very, very, very smart people. It is refreshing to have deep, intellectual conversations. About politics, about parenting, about religion… the list goes on and on. Loved the conversations of the week.
Okay, so you’re wondering what
was the breakthrough with Nathan.
On our last night, while getting
my boy ready for bed, he started telling me how much he as going to miss
Superman and Spunky. This discussion turned to how he was going to miss me when
I died. While he has brought up death since I have been sick, this was the
first time he ever said, “When you die of cancer.”
When I was first diagnosed, I
know he had a conversation with some of the kids in our friends group about
cancer and dying. A teenager that greatly influenced my nephew and our friend’s
kids died last year and I am pretty sure one of the kids talked to him about
how she had died. We have talked about death… but never like this.
I tried to reassure him that my
doctor said that they killed the cancer and that I am healthy. I talked to him
about how the chemo and radiation fought the ‘bad guys’ and won. We talked for
quite a while and finally, I said, “Nathan, you are 5 years old and all you
need to think about are cars and dinosaurs and riding your bike.” With tears
streaming down his face he asked me, “Mommy, how can I think about those things
when all I can think about is you.”
I was speechless. Just hugged my
crying boy and cried along with him.
It kills me that he has carried
these kinds of heavy thoughts and burdens. However I am so glad that he has
finally expressed his fears and let go of just a little bit of the stress that
he has been carrying. Honestly, Nathan has done an amazing job being the son of
a cancer patient. He has not significantly acted out, he hasn’t regressed in
behavior or cognitive learning, he hasn’t shut down. He has actually thrived
and taken every bump without much issue. I
personally believe there is great freedom in sharing and releasing deep
emotions such as this, so I am so grateful that he is beginning to let things
go. Poor boy… incredibly strong little man.
I love him. I love him a lot.
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| Joppa Family - June 2012 |
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| Nathan and Superman in the spa. (Showing off their dinosaur and camel figurines.) |
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| Superman (6 yrs), Nathan (5 yrs), Spunky (4 yrs) and Leah (week shy of 2 yrs) "Best Buds" |
